Jeffrey Pyne - Murderer?

So I just watched Dateline this past week. The case was about convicted murdered Jeffrey Pyne.

Interesting story about the “perfect son” turned murdered. Or so the headlines like us to believe.
Now, when I first started watching the show, I was leaning towards dad as the murdered.
That was until I saw Jeffrey’s hands. I have had skin torn off, and my hands bled and then scabbed over.
Blisters on the other hand do not bleed and that is what Jeff clearly had on his hands.

Now where I do differ of opinion in this case.

There are those that think he is innocent. I don’t agree.
There are those that think he was guilty and many that think he deserves to be in jail. I don’t agree. 
I think he is guilty but I don’t think he deserves jail.

This was a kid who lived in fear. 
His mother was bi-polar and when she was not on her medication, she was dangerous. 
She did try to kill him remember. 
This was not a mother who just screamed and acted irrational. 

She tried to kill him. 
This changes everything to me.
When a child who lived in fear murders the parent(s) that cause that fear, it to me is not just murder.
It’s self-defense,  revenge, fear.  It is very different to me.
Yes, kids are abused every day and very few grow up to murder their parents. But at the end of the day to me, this is still a game changer.
This is not a crazed person murdering for joy. This is not someone that is a danger to society.
They need help. They need counseling. 
Prison is just not the right place for them. 
They deserve pity. Yes, this was wrong, but it is still different. 

No child should ever live in fear. Their home should be where they are safe.
As someone that had “safe”, I cannot imagine being in fear in my own home. 
Now in this case, I have heard many people say “Jeff was an adult and could have just left”.
This is where I do not agree.
Yes, Jeff was free to leave. BUT, he had a young sister who remained at that home. 
A younger sister who could be in danger. 
Now ask yourself this, if you had a younger sibling, and you knew your mom was potentially dangerous, could you just walk away? Could you leave her alone? 
I could not do it. 
I don’t think Jeff could either. Yes, just my theory, but I do think it makes the most sense.
So now imagine wanting to leave, but in doing so, you are leaving your young helpless sister alone. Alone in a home with a mother that could stop taking her meds, a mother that tried to kill you, a mother that had started storing knives in her room. 

Could you really just leave? 

So here is where I find motive. 
I think at that point, it was not about him. It was about his sister. Even if he stayed in the home, he was not there 24/7. His sister is not safe. At any point in time, mom could snap.
SHE WAS NOT SAFE. PERIOD 
I think Jeff either planned this out to ensure his sister was safe and he could live his life. Or his mother said something threatening and Jeff had enough.
I don’t blame him at all. 

I do however blame dad.
Those children should not have had to live in a home with that mother. 
Dad should have protected those kids and removed them the day she tried to kill Jeff.
There is NO excuse. 
I am a parent. I have a son and I am married. 
I do not care why…. if my husband tried to hurt my son, I would leave.  
I would protect my son. 
I would not remain in a home where my child was not safe. 
Dad is to blame for that. 
At the end of the day think Jeff was the one that took action to protect his sister. 

The only thing I am not sure of is if he planned this or he felt there was a treat at that moment and acted. 
Either way, I do think the laws need to change.
When a child is raised in a home where the parent(s) is abusive, there is severe damage done. 
When that child grows up and murders that parent(s), the defense is different.
I don’t think they deserve a slap on the hand and sent home. But I do not think prison is the answer. I think a mental facility and years of counseling is. 
I also think there needs to be better control on who is having kids.
Kids need to be protected. We need better programs, better training. 
But until we reach that point, these kids need help. They are not given a choice. They are helpless. A parent should protect their child with their own life. A child should not be in fear of their parent. 
There is no excuse. 
Stop the abuse or be prepared to better handle the consequences. 

Jeffrey MacDonald revisited

I just read about the Jeffrey MacDonald case again.

I often will go back later and re-read to see if my theory or views change.

Especially in this case where it does appear that there was some level of tampering in the case.

But as I read that again and take it into consideration, the one that that I still cannot get past is evidence that is not been disputed by either side. 

That is the lack of blood.....

So imagine for me....you are trying to save your family’s life’s, you are performing CPR on three bodies that are covered in blood.. this blood WILL be on your hands, face and arms. 

That is a fact. No disputing, no debate. Simple fact. 

So, how is it that he went from room to room, at times crawling, yet there is no blood on the light switches, the walls and most importantly… if you are crawling and have blood on your hands… the floor.

It’s just not there. 

A couple drops and a foot print, but there are no hand prints from Jeff anywhere they should be if his story was true.

And I cannot get past the point that if he did not try to save his family, if he lied about his efforts, then he did not want them saved. 

I do challenge anyone to test my theory. 

Wet your hands with water. Go into a room and get on your knees next to the bed. Stand up then go crawl on the ground.

Turn around and see where you see hand prints.

I tried this. I had prints on the bed which I used to help me not only bend down but stand back up again.

When I crawled on the ground I left wet hand prints all over.

When I turned on the light water dripped down the wall.

Blood does stain. 

If he did this, there would be blood everywhere.

Instead it’s only around the bodies and on the walls due to splatter.

Jeff left no handprints anywhere in blood.

The crime scene is just too clean for a fight with intruders and then a frantic attempt to save 3 lives by a man struggling to breathe and at times crawling. 

ANOTHER Madeleine McCann book?

Yep, it's true..

So we have yet ANOTHER book about the case of missing Madeline McCann?

No worries about a lawsuit this time though…..Gerry and Kate I am sure are pleased with this one. 

Unlike the books written by Goncalo Amaral and Pat Brown who wrote about the facts of the case and what those facts most likely meant, that Madeline died in that apartment, this book is yet another white wash.

Now, I did NOT read this book. I refuse to support anything that supports their innocence. 

I just flat out do not buy it. I have said in my prior posts, the evidence supports a death in their apartment. Nothing more. 

But…. I just do not understand why people STILL support them. But that was until I read an article about the book, or more the response the authors had to the criticism on their book.

One such response was this:

“We had a single meeting with the McCann’s and one with the Met – both of them early in our research. The parents, and then the police, made only one request of us – a fair one given the parents’ hope and the Met’s working thesis that Madeleine may still be alive –  that we do nothing that might hinder or interfere with the ongoing investigation. We have been careful to abide by that request.”

What do you see here? “…the Mets working thesis that Madeline may still be alive”. So the Met clearly made them aware without directly stating it that they expect the book to support their “theory”. That Madeline is still alive. Which totally contradicts the cadaver evidence. 

WHITE WASH! 

Now, I think it’s safe to say, this couple have had support like no other missing case ever. Political support. Support from the media. I can go on. But at the end of the day, you have to ask why. 

We may never know. I think the most logical conclusion is that they just have “friends in high places”. 

Not even considering the fact that the Met has spent millions of their tax payers money to review a case and not follow a single “FACT”, but rather dredge up old leads….already cleared by the Portuguese police…. and call them “new”. All of course while the libel trial is going on. 

Like many people think, I too believe there is a connection no doubt. They want to be in the news so that the world is looking at them supporting the “abduction theory” vs mom and dad’s involvement.

What kills me is that the Met has NO legal authority on this case and the fact that they decided to do this during the libel trial and well, are not following the facts and refuse to even consider looking at mom and dad. 

How can you call this an investigation yet ignore the facts. And let’s be honest, statistically mom and dad are involved in these cases. Their refusal to see that is clear. They are covering for mom and dad. Period.

To me the cadaver dogs are the most critical piece of evidence. 

Yes…. Gerry TRIED to discredit the dogs. I find this interesting initially because of the fact that instead of being concerned for his daughter… he sought to discredit evidence. I think that for those that see past the BS see that for what it is. You are trying to get people to focus away from evidence in the case. Evidence that leads to only you and Kate. Why do I say that…. Well fact….. It takes about 1.5 hours for a dead body to emit cadaver odor. So, with their 15-30 min checks…. That makes this impossible. There was no time for an abductor to have killed Madeline.  AND better yet, 6 months after Gerry used the case of Eugene Zapata to help discredit dogs, simply because they didn’t find a body, Mr. Zapata then confessed that he murdered his wife. So those cadaver dogs… THEY WERE RIGHT. Not often do people confess, but this should have helped the case against Gerry and Kate... But, well, their political support still trumps hard facts. 

So the only way Gerry and Kate were not responsible in some manner for Madeleine’s death…. The only other options is that the “abductor” killed her in the apartment. Waited there 1.5 hours….was undetected during all these “checks” then put her body behind the couch, then moved her to the closest. Then left with her dead body.

Ok sure.

Now, I like to be fair and consider the options…..

So let’s look at them all. 

So option 1 to recap…..The abductor killed her in the apartment. Waited there for about 1.5 hours…..was able to stay undetected during all the “checks”….. then hid her body in 2 locations and then later left with her dead body. 

So….option 2. The dogs were wrong. I don’t have much more to add here. So for them to be wrong, the one of the most experienced cadaver dogs… was just wrong. Option 2. 

Moving on…. 

Option 3. The hotel AND the rental car company LIED that there was a death in the room AND the vehicle. Not sure why they would lie but again, if you think they are innocent, this must be at least considered as an option. 

Option 4.  There was a murder in both the hotel room AND the rental car and it was not reported to the hotel or the rental car company. A person does not simply pass away in a small closet or behind a couth and get moved AND the trunk of a car AND not get reported. 

Or last but not least, option 5. They were framed. LONG shot but  like I said, I look at the options.

So what do you think.
I would love to hear what you think the cadaver dog scent really means.
Option 1, 2, 3, 4 or 5?

To discredit it, it has to be one of those options. 

Gerry McCann is Smithman

Was the Smith sighting really Gerry Mccann?

I think it was.

First of all, the timeline for this sighting vs when the alarm was sounded is at the exact same time. Now, that would mean that either Madeline was kidnapped at 9:15 and this person carried her around for over 45 minutes being seen by both Jane and the Smiths…. Or that possibly, just possibly, the time of the alarm at 10pm was done on purpose as a cover while Gerry disposed of Madeleine. Do we have anyone outside the Tapas group that can 100% tell us Gerry Mccann was at the table at that time.

Then, the parents have a page on their find Madeleine website with potential suspects. The Tanner sighting is included and they also have a random e-fit of a male that was “acting suspicious” near the resort and an e-fit of some random woman “acting suspicious” in Spain. SPAIN? Really??? But the Smith sighting is given no consideration on their site. Interesting….. 

 

Then, Kate herself states both the Tanner and Smith sighting are equally important and are likely the same person. She states this in the documentary “Madeline was here”. Part 2/5 on youtube.

Well, I struggle with this…... 

IF THEY ARE THE SAME…again, why don’t the Mccann’s include the Smith sighting e-fits on their website along with the Jane turner sighting? Jane’s description is the man from a distance, the Smith sighting is of the face. I think IF they really think this is the same, why not share those e-fits?

IF THEY ARE THE SAME …..then that means that this man walking around with a child uncovered covered at 9:15going one direction was then STILL out walking about at 10:00pm going a totally opposite direction. So that means this man was carrying this “abducted child” around for 45 minutes. REALLY?

Mr Smith saw Gerry carrying another child and at that time said the way he was carrying the child reminded him of the man he saw that night. Now, I have seen many state that if he was so concerned, why did he wait so long to come forward. Well, lets be honest. You see a man carrying what appears to be a sleeping child down the street….. does that ring any alarm bells in your mind. Even if you hear about a child kidnapping. Its not like he was running, or the child was fighting. If you assume she was asleep, a kidnapper is not going to get out with a 4 year old child without waking her up.  Then he has since disappeared. Well, if you consider the fact that the Mccanns have sued people over their theories that they were involved, do you not think there was some threat possibly made to this man who was claiming he was sure that the sighting was Gerry. I think it’s entirely possible.

Also, consider for a moment... That Gerry being aware that this family saw him and could identify him later....has Jane claim to see this similar man carrying a child at the same exact time she sees Gerry speaking to Jez. This would work to clear Gerry, Jane saw the man at the same time she saw Gerry, that takes him out of the equation IF you believe Jane. Now many state there is no reason for the friends to lie to help the McCann's.... But maybe there is... I think the Mccann's drugged the kids to sleep, I think it's also likely the other parents did this at least once during this vacation. Now..if you have everyone drugging their kids and one dies accidentally due to this....it really  drags everyone in. You are all just as guilty. If one goes down, you all do. I think they all realized that it could have been their child, and they are all in this coverup or they all stand to go to jail. I mean if they tell the police what happened, Gerry and Kate tell the police all of them drugged the kids and now they all go down.  Since drugging your kids so the sleep is illegal. 

Either way,,,.Gerry and Kate above all… as I have talked about in prior posts were negligent. PERIOD.

You do not leave toddlers alone ever.

These are selfish people. 

If you wanted a quiet adult only vacation, you leave the kids with family or babysitter. They had the means. They just choose instead to risk their safety.

 

Oscar Pistorius continued

This case had me calling BS from the first moment I heard his “story”.

I agree with the prosecutor in this case. They fought and then he killed her.

Now before I go on, I have to give Gerrie Nel serious props. This was my dream career. But I just don’t have the confidence or guts.

I don’t recall another cause where the prosecutor was this strong. Although Juan Martinez is a close 2^nd.  

Mr. Nel is the first one I have seen in a long time that does not miss a beat. He catches every inconsistency in Oscar’s story and calls him on it. 

Being a lover of “Statement Analysis” I have realized how often normally these lies and inconsistencies occur and no one ever catches on. Kinda like Hannah Anderson stating on national TV that she was threatened not to try to get help by her captor… then moments later says he was “signally for help”. Such a huge WTF moment yet no one ever stopped to ask what she meant by such a glaring contradiction to her entire story line.

Nel does not do this. He catches it and he calls him out on it. Not that Oscar really ever seems to have an answer. He reminds me more and more of Jodi Arias. I don’t recall…. I don’t remember….. So many blanks once he shot the gun. Just like Jodi…

So now back to Oscar.

 

Now, I think that most of us hear the story about how he thought a noise in the small toilet stall was an intruder. I think most of us just flat out do not by this.

I am married. If I wake up in the middle of the night to a noise in our bathroom toilet stall… My instant thought is… its my husband. Not an intruder.

Now sure, he lives in a high crime area….. but lets play that side. You hear a noise in the middle of the night. A window opening… as he is now claiming (one of his many changes to his original statement).

How many of you have heard a noise in the middle of the night and were startled? What did you do? I think most of us will automatically wake up the person next to us in bed. Not grab a gun and shoot at the sound.

Some things are just basic common sense.

This is as simple as the Michael Jackson case. If the 45 year old guy that lives next door invites your 10 year old son to spend the night with him and sleep in his bed you are not gonna just be like sure… You are going to instantly be very concerned.  BECAUSE IT IS NOT NORMAL. Just because Michael Jackson was a professional singer does not change a thing.

Just because Oscar was scared of intruders, does mean he would not say something to Reeva.

My husband heard a loud noise once. Something fell in the living room. He immediately woke me up and told me he heard a noise to stay there. He was protecting me. Oscar trys to claim he was trying to “protect” Reeva but if he was, he would have made sure she was there and made sure she heard him. Period.

But let’s imagine the story he is trying to lay out here…

Now, he has changed his story from they were BOTH asleep and he got up while she was sleeping.  Now he claims she was not just a wake, but “still awake’. Aside from the glaring inconsistency here, lets continue.

 

So he wakes up. Shes already awake. He goes to grab the fan, or the fans (another change)on the balcony but now states he only grabbed them from inside and didn’t actually go out on the balcony. I find this a little harder to see with 2 fans that he just reached out, on his stumps mind you and brought them in. But again, I will continue….

So in these moments when he brings the fan in, Reeva being  awake gets out of bed and he hears nothing….

I guess we are supposed to assume that she is the one that opened the window on her way (despite the claims he is sooo scared of intruders he had his house alarmed and locked up tight) and then after he is screaming at the intruders to “get the f#$% out of his house” Reeva just panics and slams the door.

He is in the bathroom and she is in the toilet yet she never says “It’s me Oscar!”?

 

It seems more like some stealth mission where she sneaks out of the room without making a sound and then never again speaks or says a word. 

So, now what about the neighbors. They clearly stated they heard a man and a woman fighting. Then blood curdling screams before the shots were fired and after first shot.

But I guess they lied about the arguing. I mean, they have a reason for this? Right?

Then the Dr. got up in those seconds as the shots rang out, and saw the bathroom light on. Despite Oscar stating the whole place was dark as he was scared to turn the lights on.

The Dr. is lying too I guess. Right?

I just don’t see why all these people would lie. It makes no sense.

But Oscar has all the reason in the world to lie.

It would not be the first time someone killed their partner in the heat of the moment. It happens every day.

I even think he regrets it. But only because he is facing life in jail.

 

I think his tears are his fear of being locked up forever. Especially in that country. He surely faces many more challenges and dangers in his position.

I would cry at being accused of murder. Even if I was innocent and had never met the person. I would cry. I see no reason why those tears are not for Oscar himself.

Statement analysis of his statements have noted deception.

His story does not make any logical sense.

His contradictions are concerning.

I think he did in fact kill her after an argument.

 

Now if we could just have had someone like Mr. Nell on the case against John and Patsy Ramsey…. I bet John would be in jail today and Patsy would have died behind bars.  

Unfortunately in many cases we have prosecutors that have no business being in the job they hold. Either you care about the law and justice or get a job in another line of work.

 

Now we wait to see what this judge does. I am about 70% sure she will convict him. For now I will be watching the trial anxious to see if he can get Oscar to crack and just admit it.

I have to admit, if anyone could do that… it would be this guy. But facing a life behind bars does give someone a lot more motivation to hold tight to your story.

We shall see.

In the mean time, I saw this on twitter. Appeared to be Gerries twitter but not sure I buy that. But still found this to be funny.

The gift of bull shit

I find it so interesting how easy it is for some to lie, to convince someone they are speaking the truth while lying or avoiding the topic all together. How easy it is to convince someone that you care, that you love them. It works for politicians, criminals. It works in relationships both personal and professional.

I follow a lot of crime blogs, lie detection etc. Why, because I once wanted to be a criminal prosecutor. But, I have an extreme phobia of public speaking that I have unsuccessfully tried to overcome… and being that face that puts criminals behind bars, I will admit that is somewhat frightening.

So, instead I went into Human Resources and I follow cases and blogs on the side and hope that those that do the job I am not able to do, do it right. But more and more…I am disappointed .

Now I have always been very observant. Even before I started reading about lie detection, statement analysis etc, The older I got, the more I have just gotten it.

Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying I am not rocket scientist or math wiz… but common sense….. I have that. Seeing past the sales pitch… I have that. I don’t just buy into the hype. I am not easily swayed and I for sure do not believe just because I was told. I want facts, I want proof. Or I question it. It sure has not made my life easier.  So, I have learned to keep my mouth shut (thus, why sometimes my only outlet is to write) or just let things go. But it never leaves my mind. I have not accepted it or just believed. I just choose not to fight a fight I know I may never win.

I question what others just assume. Even if I don’t shout it from the roof tops, I do question it. I would hear the deception or hear the missed response. Not always sure why, that is until I began studying about lie detection and my soul mate….”statement analysis”. Yes I said soul mate. Statement Analysis was like the light that finally when off for me that made things make more sense.  

Now I have mentioned in a prior post that I am sure that the reason I am this way stemmed from my child hood….. My mother is a pathological liar. I don’t mean she exaggerates, or bends the truth…..she outright lies. Her reasons vary….. sympathy, control, or just to simply win an argument etc… she lies. She lives breathes and lies. She is probably one of the best. She still lies to this day and convinces many. I think part of that is why I can see deception in the little things. I watched the pro lie my whole life.

I also see this deception at work. Meetings are especially fascinating.

I recall a meeting an old boss. He was asked a question I initially thought he would refer to me. I knew very well he had no clue what the process was…since it was something that I and I alone managed. Sure he was my boss, and technically that falls under his scope, but in this case, I knew for a fact he did have the answers.  

Instead….he instead proceeded to ramble. Not even about the question, in fact, I sat there wondering just what exactly he was even talking about the entire time. He just went on and on and on.

I initially was sure everyone would be confused and the question would be again asked with clarification and I would need to interject. Instead, as I looked around the room…. Rather than seeing baffled faces, they seemed engaged, hanging on every word. When he finally stopped speaking…. Everyone seemed, well, impressed…..as if he had answered the question and went above with his response. When in fact, he didn’t answer the question at all. I was shocked. Not only did they feel that he had sufficiently answered the question, which he had not, they were impressed?!?!? Was I just in the same room?

It took me a while to understand. But after years of watching this occur, I realized that there are those that just speak well. They use pretty words, they have the right tone, the right pace.

I came to call this the BS ability.

They can bull shit their way through anything because they speak well. They flow their words well, they sound educated and knowledgeable. Even having no knowledge at all.

Once I figured this out, it was like a piece of the puzzle…. Just a piece.

 

Figuring this out also allowed me to finally understand the success of a friend of mine……

A friend who is….. for lack of a better way to put it, a “pot head”….

Now to clarify, by “pot head” I do not mean she smokes pot occasionally or even after work and on the weekends.  

No, she is a certifiable text book pot head. She is stoned every day, ALL DAY. She smokes pot as soon as she wakes while most of us are having our morning cup of coffee. She has pot in her baked goods that she eats at work. ALL DAY. She sneaks to the rest room to smoke a joint before meetings. She smokes pot all day…..every day……

She will tell her employer she has meetings, interviews with clients then smoke pot and sleep for hours. She has told me time and again that she works maybe 2 hours a week…

She is a queen bull shitter.

So good, she has managed to be employee of the year many times. Recruiter of the year many years in a row. And, not for a small company, but a fortune 500 company. And she does nothing and she does it stoned.

She lied about her education. She lied about her experience. She lies about her criminal past. Yet time and again, she lands the job, closes the deal and brings in 6 figures.

Being a top producing recruiter myself, I fail time and again to land those high paying jobs or to get the credit I deserve for actual hard work. I am NOT a bull shitter. 

It is unreal but it's true. 

Most our leaders are really nothing more but bull shitters. 

 

Madeline McCann E-fits really Gerry?

I firmly believe that the Smith family saw Gerry carrying a dead Madeline from their vacation rental that night she “disappeared”.  

The Smiths provided the description for the e-fits. 

Gerry and Kate did not allow them to be released.

But why? If you are innocent, to me the timing of the Smith sighting would lead me to believe that was the “real kidnapper”.

If your child was kidnapped and someone sees a child being carried away immediately after… What would you do? Would you want to talk to them? Would you want to hound them for every single detail possible? I would. It would haunt me. I would beg them for more information. Anything at all. 

Gerry and Kate did not do this.

Ask yourself why. 

Because they knew this was not a kidnapper. It was Gerry they saw. Sure the Smiths have since taken back that claim that they are sure it was Gerry. But I think it’s safe to say they were facing a lawsuit and/or harassment. Look what happened to the lead PJ on the case. Gerry and Kate destroyed his career, his life. And when he wrote a book, a book that clearly is based on facts in the case, they are suing him. 

They won’t stop. I am sure the Smiths were  warned about what could happen if they did not stop.

Some have even said the e-fits look nothing like Gerry. I beg to differ. 

Missing child or homicide?

Each time I hear a story of a missing child it breaks my heart. There are so many evil people out there, that the thought of what they could be going through is horrifying.

What is worse however, is the thought that the child is actually harmed by mom or dad… or both.

It seems like we have had so many missing cases over the last few years that look more like harm came to the child in their own home by the very people that should protect them with their own lives.

I have talked about a couple of these cases on my blog. It is infuriating. What is even more infuriating is that these parents are getting away with it. 

How is it that the average Joe Citizen is outsmarting the police? Some of these average Joes are druggies who struggle to survive, hold down a job etc. but they are getting away with murder? These are not rocket scientists. 

Have police gotten lazy, stupid? Or are these monsters just getting smarter.

I am just not sure anymore.

But I see past the bullshit even if the physical evidence does not exist. 

For me, there two main things that a parent of a missing child will do that immediately takes me from a missing child case to a potential murder/cover up.

 

1.       They do not search/call out for the child

2.       They speak of the child in past tense.

 

Let’s discuss this further.

 

1)       Mom and dad do NOT search or call out for the child

How do you NOT search? Your child is missing and you sit at home and do what? Wait? Wait for what. The only reaction is searching.

Most of us parents have had the child dart under the clothes rack at the store, or wander to the next isle. We know that panic. I have felt it. It was the clothes rack. It was seconds and the fear that overcame me is unexplainable. FEAR, PANIC. A loving parent feels nothing less.

I follow a blog about Statement analysis by Peter Hyatt. He made a comment about a parent that does not search. He basically said it would be like losing your child at the store and instead of frantically searching, you got in your car, went home and waited for someone else to find them. I don’t know a single parent that would do that.

So when I see this lack of searching…..I am instantly concerned and begin to see the parents as the main suspect.

 

The panic, fear. It should take over. It should be a natural instinct as a loving parent. There is no other reaction. I have seen cases where mom and dad searched till they could not walk, searched places that were dangerous, dug in trash dumpsters, searched high and low. That is the only type of parent that should be a parent. The rest in my mind are guilty.  Even if it is not of murder, but neglect.

One thing that I have seen for years is that so many people wish to dispute these expected reactions from mom and dad. Callers on the Nancy Grace show, followers of a blog, etc. I see it over and over and over again. The response is always “everyone reacts different”.

This is always said in defense of the mom and dad. 

One example I have seen was with the case Isabel Celis (see my blog post on this case). Mom and dad did nothing. They did not search and they did not speak out. Instead, they sat in their home for 2 weeks. When they finally emerged…. Only because they pressured…. What was the reason mom gave for not speaking out…. “WE WERE GREIVING”. 

FAIL. 

While I can understand this word to some degree, I just find that choice of words very out of order for a “KIDNAPPING”. 

The child is just missing. She could have wondered off. Typically people do not grieve immediately after they discover their child missing but rather go into a panic, they are fearful, they are motivated to find that child.

To sit in your room and cry is something that I would expect when you got the news that the child was found deceased. Even if months have gone by with no leads I can under stand grieving. 

But immediately after, your natural instinct would be to find them. 

My cousins little girl walked out of the house once. The door was shut but we think the wind blew it back upen and she walked out. 

Now, she was found safe. Let me start with that..... She just walked to the house next door and was quietly playing in the back yard. 

But it was a good 3 minutes before she was found. My cousin (her mom) was in a panic I have never seen before. She was screaming her name, she was running, looking under every tree, in every yard, SCREAMING. People were coming out of their homes and began helping. They began searching their yards and that is where she was found.

Now imagine this same scenario. Imagine that my cousin just closed the door and cried. Does that make any sense to you?

Then how these people can excuse that behavior is beyond me.

There is no excuse.

If you do not search…... If you do not call out for your child….  You are now the prime suspect in my mind. And I am at this point concerned the child is in fact not alive and you know this. You know there is nothing to search for.

PERIOD.

 

Sergio and Becky Celis  

Gerry and Kate Mccann

Billie Jean Dunn

Justin DiPietro

Greg and Ericka Lewis

To me you are all responsible for your Child’s disappearance. Your actions from day one told me that. Your continued lack of concern, effort, or action has proven it over time. 

 

2)       Mom and dad speak of the child in past tense

Let me ask you a question. You don’t even need to be a parent.

Tell me about your mom, dad, sister, son, cousin. Pick one that is alive and well. Tell me how you would describe them.

Would you say:

They WERE funny.

They WERE loving.

They WERE sweet.

I LOVED her/him

Or would you say:

They ARE funny.

They ARE loving.

They ARE sweet.

I LOVE her/him

 

If they are alive, they “ARE FUNNY”. If they are alive you “LOVE THEM”. Using past tense when your child is MISSING, tells us that in your mind, that child is not “missing” and ALIVE but no longer living.

This goes back to what I have learned in statement analysis.

As a child we learned pronouns. We learned verb tense. It is one thing that is used every time we speak. It is instinctive. Its natural.

Verb tense does not lie.

We speak of our kids, our spouse in present tense. 

It is that simple. Verb tense does not lie.

 

 

Parents that do not search, may just be neglectful. But parents that do both…..do not search, call out and speak of the child in past tense….

To me, they are guilty. 

Period. 

 

Isabel Celis

So the case of “missing” Isabel Celis was back in the news in the recent months. Local law enforcement was hoping to get some new leads. 

Now, I believe mom and dad are responsible for Isabel’s disappearance. Their latest statements have confirmed my beliefs.

When the news showed back up on their door step, instead of 2 parents desperate to find their daughter and grateful that they are looking again…. This is what they said to reporters. 

Now to be clear, I listened to the video to transcribe Beckys statement for a good 30 minutes.. I had to replay and pause several times. So, what you are about to read is what she said. It was akward and I struggled to make any sense of it in any way or see a mother who is still out there trying to find her baby girl. 

BECKY: It’s a good thing.. It’s a thing that you know and you see them and you know that there are gonna.. they are trying um im hoping that what.. yah know that’s the thought that they are trying and trying to get what they need out of this and so it’s a positive but has a negative effect too, it does bring back the memories of the whole thing. 

SERGIO: "We have a lot of questions that aren't answered, a lot of things that we wish we could just close the book on. But until then, there's so many things that are left so wide open. You know, they did so much digging right here right here, in our house, right here between me and Becky, into our family, you know, we have already been stripped away from our little daughter and we were violated all over again. And we're hoping that this time around maybe someone else can get the attention. And maybe that, you know, all that strength, and all that force, can go somewhere else and we can really get down to a lot of answers," 

Then when Becky was asked what she wanted to say to Isabel if she was listening and she said this

BECKY: “Baby we're still looking for you, baby. Don't give up and don't give up here. We're still out here, looking. Don't give up. We haven't given up so we hope that she never does, either," 

Interesting… Sergio NEVER says he wants his daughter home. Just that he wants the attention off them. If your child was kidnapped, and you didn’t know if she was hurt, scared, in pain, would your focus be on you or your child? Mine would be on my child.

And note that Becky does not talk about Isabel as I would expect her too. And to say they are “still out here looking” I wish the reporters would ask “what have you done too search” cause I don’t believe they have done a thing 

She rambles for on sometime and says nothing really about wanting her child home. 

I don’t trust these parents and I am so upset that nothing has been done. 

HERE IS THE LINK:   http://www..tucsonnewsnow.com/story/24463241/tpd

Is anyone buying Oscar Pistorious’s story?

I for one am NOT.

First of all, who breaks into a home then locks themselves in a bathroom stall?

NO ONE!

Then if you are lying in bed with your partner, if you hear a noise, I think most of us wake them up. I know I have heard noises and my immediate response is to wake up my husband. 

Now, I get the whole being scared, living in a high crime country and having had death threats. But if you are scared, and you have 2 paths of about equal distance…. A robber in a closed bathroom stall or getting out of your home to safety, what would you do?

I think if you are scared to death, so much so that even turning the lights was too scary… you are not rushing towards a robber. You would want to rush from them. 

I think very few would choose to confront the robber. Especially if you think they are in a small closed room the opposite direction of the exit.

I just don’t buy that.

Here is the floor plan. Decide for yourself.  

But to me, I think if you were faced with this, and were sure the noise was coming from the toilet, wouldn’t you assume it was your partner? If not, my first reaction would be to wake up my spouse. Not just start shooting. 

He then states “I felt trapped as my bedroom door was locked and I have limited mobility on my stumps”. WHAT? How are you trapped in a locked bedroom door when you are in that bedroom? He was not locked in. This sounds more like someone trying to explain why he didn’t get Reeva and bolt out of the apartment. Since again, it would have been quicker to leave the bedroom and possibly get out of the house than going into the bathroom. 

Now we have heard from neighbors who have stated that they hear “blood curdling” screams from a WOMAN followed by shots then screams from Oscar.

Does that sound like what Oscar claims happened? Not at all. Sure it’s his word against theirs but there is more than one person that heard the screams from a woman and it does not benefit them to lie. Oscar on the other hand is trying to save his own life. He has all the motivation to lie. 

I also have a big issue with when he chooses to put on his prosthetic legs. If you thought you had robbers in your home….. And you were on stumps…. I would think for the sheer ability to have better movement, this is when he would have put on his legs. Instead he claims he went after a robber on his stumps. Putting himself at even greater risk(not being able to run) and then upon discovering it was Reeva in the bathroom, then now takes the time to put on the stumps. Then instead of calling the police first, he phones a friend.

He sure took his time.  

If you have a life on the line, who would you call first? Would you call for help or would you put on your stumps and call a friend?  

This case really looks to me like murder after a fight. 

My theory matches what many have said.

They fought. 

She became scared and ran to the bathroom and locked the door. 

He chased her.

I then think that he initially tried to get to her in the locked bathroom by hitting the door with the bat. I think he would have hit her with that.  I think when that did not work, he went back and got his gun and shot her. I think he then still could not get into the room and hit the door again. I think if she had been alive still, he would have still killed her. 

I think in his anger, it was his intention to kill Reeva. He may or may not feel remorse now. But I do think the majority of the crying is at least due to his sheer fear of going to jail and not about Reeva.